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September 2014

I survived — now how do I survive my survival?

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  [button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column fromWEDNESDAY, JUL 2, 2008   Cancer changed everything. I need a new paradigm.   Dear Cary, Please help me figure out how to survive surviving. Three years ago I was diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer. After a year of surgery, chemo and...

My dad left us because he is gay

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  [button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from FRIDAY, APR 22, 2005 Why did he spend 18 years with my mom? Did he know all along, or what? Dear Cary, Two months ago my dad moved out of the house. For about two years he has been depressed and then he started to have a drinking problem. My mom tried...

I threw my junkie sons out of the house

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Dear Cary, I need clarity surrounding my relationship with my two sons, 25 and 30, who until a month ago resided with me in the house I raised a family in. Both are opioid abusers (and benzodiazepines and nitrous oxide “whip-its” when they can get them) and they have systematically manifested the usual toolkit strengths of addicts … lying, cheating  and stealing repeatedly...

Leave me alone!

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  [button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from TUESDAY, JUN 15, 2004 Just because I bounced between anorexia and bulimia people think they can comment on what I’m eating. Dear Cary, Why won’t people stop watching what I eat? I used to bounce back and forth between anorexia and bulimia in high...

It’s not my fault

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[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button]   Cary’s classic column from WEDNESDAY, MAR 19, 2003 I want my husband to write a letter to my future lovers, telling them that the demise of our marriage was his fault. Dear Cary, I don’t always agree with you, but I do think you are compassionate and nonjudgmental, two of the most...

I’m finished with my family — but am I free of them?

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[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button]   Cary’s classic column from WEDNESDAY, OCT 19, 2005T Is this resolution or abandonment? Dear Cary: Thank you, first off, for being a unique voice in a somewhat crude, unsympathetic age. Here’s my problem in a nutshell: I’ve abandoned my family, and they’ve let me, and I can’t...

Imagine my idiot surprise

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Indeed, imagine my idiot surprise that French people talking about Jack Kerouac in Paris would be talking about him in French! Imagine my idiot surprise that French is really such a completely different language from English that whatever they’re saying about Jack Kerouac is impossible to understand even with hand gestures and changes in posture and tone of voice! Imagine that the biggest...

Eating cookies in my underwear

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There are many things to do in Paris. Many things people do in Paris not fully dressed. One of the best things to do in Paris is to eat cookies not fully dressed. These cookies have chocolate on the top but underneath are just butter. It’s butter and chocolate. Outside the sun is bright and cars are going by. There is much driving in Paris. If you attempt to drive a car into Paris and then...

I feed the poor but eat with the rich

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[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button]   Cary’s classic column from TUESDAY, AUG 21, 2007 We do our Christian charity and then drink mimosas at a fancy hotel up the street. And that just seems so wrong!   Dear Cary, A few months back, I joined a church group that goes to a homeless shelter once a month to prepare...

He e-mailed us to say, “I’m dating both of you”

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[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button]   Cary’s classic column from TUESDAY, JUN 16, 2009 I thought I liked this guy, but his message to me and the other woman he’s dating seemed pretty tacky. Dear Cary, I value your advice and read your column all the time. Anyway, after a long hiatus, I dove into the dating pool. I...

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