Dear Cary, I need clarity surrounding my relationship with my two sons, 25 and 30, who until a month ago resided with me in the house I raised a family in. Both are opioid abusers (and benzodiazepines and nitrous oxide “whip-its” when they can get them) and they have systematically manifested the usual toolkit strengths of addicts … lying, cheating and stealing repeatedly...
Leave me alone!
[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from TUESDAY, JUN 15, 2004 Just because I bounced between anorexia and bulimia people think they can comment on what I’m eating. Dear Cary, Why won’t people stop watching what I eat? I used to bounce back and forth between anorexia and bulimia in high...
It’s not my fault
[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from WEDNESDAY, MAR 19, 2003 I want my husband to write a letter to my future lovers, telling them that the demise of our marriage was his fault. Dear Cary, I don’t always agree with you, but I do think you are compassionate and nonjudgmental, two of the most...
I’m finished with my family — but am I free of them?
[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from WEDNESDAY, OCT 19, 2005T Is this resolution or abandonment? Dear Cary: Thank you, first off, for being a unique voice in a somewhat crude, unsympathetic age. Here’s my problem in a nutshell: I’ve abandoned my family, and they’ve let me, and I can’t...
I feed the poor but eat with the rich
[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from TUESDAY, AUG 21, 2007 We do our Christian charity and then drink mimosas at a fancy hotel up the street. And that just seems so wrong! Dear Cary, A few months back, I joined a church group that goes to a homeless shelter once a month to prepare...
He e-mailed us to say, “I’m dating both of you”
[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from TUESDAY, JUN 16, 2009 I thought I liked this guy, but his message to me and the other woman he’s dating seemed pretty tacky. Dear Cary, I value your advice and read your column all the time. Anyway, after a long hiatus, I dove into the dating pool. I...
Guys keep dumping me
[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from MONDAY, SEP 3, 2012 We date for six weeks and then they say, “There’s no spark” Hi Cary, I enjoy reading your responses because they are honest and very heartfelt, and – I hope this doesn’t sound over the top — they’re often quite...
Who’s that woman I saw my father with?
Cary’s classic column from MONDAY, AUG 30, 2004 [button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] I’m afraid she’s a gold digger. Besides, it’s too soon after Mom’s death for Dad to have a girlfriend. Dear Cary, I am 24 years old and currently attending graduate school in fine art. About a year ago, my mother died from breast cancer...
How can I help my grieving daughter-in-law?
Cary’s classic column from Monday, Apr 11, 2011 [button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] I feel awful there isn’t more I can do Dear Cary, I always appreciate your philosophical approach to helping people reflect on their problems, and I am interested in hearing your thoughts on mine. How does one support...
My alcoholic father has a child we never knew about
Cary’s classic column from Tuesday, January 22, 2008 [button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Way back when, he gave up rights to the child, but now I want to know my half-sibling. Dear Cary, Until a few years ago the only issue I had with my dad was his drinking and resulting behavior. A family member recently uncovered...