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My parents owe me money

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[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column fromWednesday, Nov 10, 2010 I loaned them a large sum and they haven’t paid me back. Should I demand payment? Dear Cary, I am struggling with whether to ask my parents to repay a loan I made to them several years ago. I am a 40-year-old professional, living on...

How do I show her I’m serious?

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    [button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button]   Dear Cary, I have been reading your column, particularly your relationship advice for so long that sometimes the stories mirror my own hopelessly romantic life with such accuracy I’m convinced a significant other wrote it. Thank you for sharing your insight in...

Allergies can be deadly

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[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from Aug 24, 2004 My husband keeps poisoning our son … and then he says, Whoops, I forgot! Dear Cary, I am very happily married, with three wonderful children my husband and I are both besotted with. My husband and I treat each other with genuine respect and...

How to handle my friend’s engagement?

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  [button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button]     Hello Cary, I am writing on how to think about a new situation. Some background: I briefly “dated” a man back in 2005. It was a long distance thing since I met him on a trip in another country, so for better or worse, we were as best friends. When our...

My family is feuding about politics

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[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from MONDAY, MAR 16, 2009 We’ve got Republicans, we’ve got liberals, and it’s getting ugly. Dear CT, Like many extended families, ours has people who live and breathe Republican doctrine, and people who are liberal. Since the early Bush years, we have given each...

My girlfriend’s stepfather is a real a-hole … and a dying man

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Cary’s classic column from TUESDAY, MAY 29, 2007   This guy does not respect me or notice me! What can I do? Dear Cary, I am in my late 20s and have, in the last three months, fallen deeply in love with a woman of approximately the same age, in the same neighborhood practically. We have a wonderful relationship and became strongly attached to each other almost immediately. I could see myself...

I’m dating my doppelganger

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    [button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button]   Dear Cary, About seven months ago, I was coming out of a really bad relationship with a younger guy who was an immature, boring freeloader. He also cheated on me with men and women, indiscriminately. As long as he was receiving attention, he was happy. After breaking...

I know my co-worker’s evil secrets — because I was his therapist!

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Cary’s classic column from FRIDAY, JUN 15, 2007   I’m aghast to find I’ll be sharing an office with a man whom — for good but confidential reasons — I utterly detest.   Dear Cary, I need your perspective on an issue that may not have a solution that I will ever find satisfying … but here goes. I recently started working for a new employer and I have been very happy in...

I’m a doubting teenager

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[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button]   Archival column from FRIDAY, JAN 18, 2008 03:38 AM PST My experience contradicts what I have been taught. I feel guilty and alone.   Dear Reader, Please read this thoughtful, well-written question from a high school student and imagine growing up in her house with her parents...

Am I being used?

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Dear Cary: Thank you for bringing humaneness to advice columns. I hope you’ll consider taking time to help me figure out a problem. I was raised in a tribal culture where women keep things to themselves in order to keep others from worrying. I have trouble speaking to friends back home to help me work this out, and I am in a very rural area with no therapists close by. I do not have any...

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