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Is sex a “disgusting, wicked drive”?

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Dear reader, Sometimes a comment on a column can sound like a cry of agony, and a cry of agony can sound like a question. So today I respond to the below comment, posted on last week’s column. The author apparently read my 2006 Salon.com column on suicide which after 15 years still attracts fresh readers and comments. (The comments section is still open!) Ugly hunchback May 17, 2021 at 9:39...

Learning from pain (how not to kill yourself)

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Hi Cary, My name is Tremayne and I’m an 18-year-old from Queensland, Australia and I feel like I’ve hit the pinnacle of my depression. I used to be the most happy person in the world. Even when things went to shit I would always put on a smile (even during the COVID-19) and make a joke like nothing matters. I’m always prepared for anything and like life it drags me down when I...

I kissed her and then her husband killed himself

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Cary’s classic column from TUESDAY, JAN 10, 2012 Now I’m in an agony of guilt and my life will never be the same Dear Cary, I met a woman at work nine months ago.  We clicked immediately but I refused her advances because she was married, to her second husband, in fact.  After a few months, I could no longer resist the attraction.  Immediately after we kissed, she told her husband they hadn’t...

When therapy doesn’t work

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I’m suicidal a year after my miscarriage. Nothing helps Cary’s classic column from THURSDAY, MAY 31, 2012 Dear Cary, What happens when therapy doesn’t work? I’ve battled most of my life with depression, the causes of which are probably not of very much importance (absent alcoholic father, frequent moving, mentorless young adulthood, spotty employment, fear of commitment, and the crowning insult...

Can we flee my husband’s family?

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[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from THURSDAY, SEP 3, 2009 They’ll drive us crazy if we stay. We want to move to Colorado! Dear Cary, This is hardly a new topic, but here goes. My husband and I have been married about a year and a half. We met, instantly fell in love and got married a short time...

Can we flee my husband’s family?

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Cary’s classic column from Sep 3, 2009 They’ll drive us crazy if we stay. We want to move to Colorado! Dear Cary, This is hardly a new topic, but here goes. My husband and I have been married about a year and a half. We met, instantly fell in love and got married a short time later. We are in our mid-30s and know ourselves well, so there was no reason to wait. And we are crazy happy with...

My lover shot himself

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  [button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Dear Cary, In my early twenties, I went to graduate school to study English literature.  I was deeply passionate about the written word and knew from the moment that I could read that I wanted to devote my life to this pursuit.  Idealistic, I felt like providence had led me to...

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