I’m available to a limited number of clients for editing, coaching and advising on long writing projects. Contact me at cary@carytennis.com if you have a project you are working on and would like to talk about it. What I do: It might be nothing more than a couple of hours talking through a project. Or I might follow a long writing project, reading rough drafts as they are completed and...
He owns me
Cary’s classic column from THURSDAY, APR 8, 2004 My boss is a nasty, sexist, arrogant man. How can I defend myself against his unreasonable behavior? Dear Cary, I hate my boss. He’s a horrible, old, mean, vain, nasty, sexist, arrogant man who yells and berates me and the rest of his staff constantly. I have a stomachache all day long while I’m working and often fantasize that he will die. There’s...
How to fight bad gossip
Cary’s classic column from Tuesday, Apr 23, 2013 People are saying untrue things about me for no apparent reason Dear Cary, A few months ago, I got a new supervisor at work. I was excited because this is someone I’ve known for years, and have even considered a mentor in the past. Unfortunately, I had a string of personal losses in the past few months — deaths and major illnesses of loved...
My boss wants to get rid of me
[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from THURSDAY, SEP 2, 2004 She wants me to leave under my own power — in a nice, quiet way. Dear Cary, I’ve been working at a high-tech company for about five years. My previous boss adored me, gave me good raises and promised me a promotion. Unfortunately...
The workers I supervise are out of control
[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from MONDAY, OCT 1, 2007 I am supposed to be managing 15 people, but they are crazy and unmanageable. What am I to do? Dear Cary, I supervise about 15 people at my job, 13 of whom are women. I am a man. It is an office environment, not high pressure, with relatively...
I’m an absent-minded engineer; my mind wanders and so does my wallet
I fear I lack common sense in life, and this affects my performance. Cary’s classic column from THURSDAY, JUL 24, 2008 Dear Cary, How does one build common sense? I’m a 31-year-old who has been plagued for most of my adult life with this problem. I’m a software engineer by trade, but I really love the theoretical aspects more than the practical aspects: algorithms and design as opposed to...
I work with a guy I don’t understand
[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] He’s a gay person of color, but he’s against the minimum wage! Cary’s classic column from Sunday, THURSDAY, JUL 21, 2005 Dear Cary, I have been at my current position as an attorney at a law firm for less than a year. Although I work at a rather typical big law firm, I am a committed...
My boyfriend is my boss
[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from MONDAY, NOV 23, 2009 I’m getting sick of being “the editor’s girlfriend” Dear Cary, I’m a college student and a reporter for my university’s paper. I’m a good writer — my work has shown up in publications beyond the university, and since arriving here I’ve...
My husband thinks I should make more money
I’m doing the kind of work I love, but he’s earning so much more! Cary’s classic column from THURSDAY, FEB 16, 2006 Dear Cary, How do I get my husband to stop telling me that I make too little money? I am a full-time copy editor at a magazine, making what copy editors make when they first start out in their careers. I love my job and feel that I am well suited for it; unfortunately, the pay is...
A bohemian in the Cheesecake Factory
[button link=”mailto:advice@carytennis.com” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] I’m an INFJ working undercover at JCrew/Abercrombie/Banana Republic/Sephora/Barneys/Apple/Eddie Bauer Town Cary’s classic column from Tuesday, Dec 7, 2010 Dear Cary, I’m a worldly, well-traveled, experienced and vibrant woman, still young (age 55), I have a wide network of interesting...