Cary’s classic column from Monday, Aug 23, 2010 A tragic death among deeply close friends: Her burial was like a ghost town Dear Cary, I want to say, first of all, that I am so happy to hear of your recovery. I always look forward to reading your thoughtful responses to letters. I have, perhaps, many things I’d like to ask for advice about but for now I will get to the most pressing and...
[button link=”mailto:[email protected]” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from THURSDAY, AUG 21, 2003 Our love makes me feel part of something bigger, but his anger scares me. Dear Cary, I’m in love. Hooray! This is a good thing. It’s beautiful. There is mutual honesty, caring and affection. This man encourages me to think and to explore...
[button link=”mailto:[email protected]” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] I’m involved with a married woman who has been abused by her husband. What should I do? Cary’s classic column from Tuesday, Feb 3, 2004 Dear Cary, I recently got involved with a married woman. We had been good friends for quite some time. There was an immediate emotional connection upon...
[button link=”mailto:[email protected]” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Airport foul-ups, traffic tie-ups, rude taxi drivers … I’ve had it! Cary’s classic column from TUESDAY, JAN 20, 2009 Dear Cary, I am married with three children, and have a responsible and professional job as a writer that puts me in the public eye a bit. The other day I took two...
Dear Cary, I’m a young woman who moved to the US a few years ago to do my PhD (I am currently in another country for a post-doc). I’m in a very difficult situation, I feel so desperate and depressed, like there’s no way out. For more than 2 years I have been in a relationship with a married man, who was my PhD advisor (I eventually switched advisors so that he wouldn’t...
Cary’s classic column from THURSDAY, FEB 22, 2007 Someone took a dump on my early-’90s blue subcompact. I feel targeted and I don’t know what to do with my anger. Dear Cary, OK, so a couple of weeks ago, somebody took a big, runny dump on the hood of my car, parked on the street near my house. Gross. Really, really gross. I assumed it was just a disgusting yet random act, donned rubber gloves and...
Dear Cary, Please help me process my murderous rage – a rage i suspect others share as well. I’m sorry you don’t seem to be on Salon anymore. You were pretty much the only reason I bothered with that site so I haven’t been in ages. I’m not 100% sure whether you’re still doing this advice thing or what the new protocol is, your site seems to indicate...
[button link=”mailto:[email protected]” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from Tuesday, Apr 12, 2011 After all I’ve been through, I snapped. I don’t want to apologize, but I want my family back. Dear Cary, In the past three years, I have had a great deal of loss. My father, both grandmothers and my 36-year-old brother died. My mother had...
[button link=”mailto:[email protected]” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from THURSDAY, AUG 23, 2007 We were sharing household duties, but then things got out of whack and now I’m ready to bitch-slap my hubby! Dear Cary: My husband won’t do his laundry and I want to bitch-slap him. Yes, this is coming from a middle-aged...
[button link=”mailto:[email protected]” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from THURSDAY, DEC 13, 2007 We have three small children and I am devastated. Hi, I need desperate help, please. My husband died of cancer a week ago. The day after his funeral, I learned he’d been having Internet sex, which didn’t stop there. He met up with...
[button link=”mailto:[email protected]” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from TUESDAY, OCT 6, 2009 I’ve got only a genetic disease and old age to look forward to Dear Cary, I have been reading your column for a while and always find your advice useful in a roundabout way, but I especially find it honest. I’m going to be...
[button link=”mailto:[email protected]” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Dear Cary, I love reading your column. You write straight to the point with witty remarks yet underline it with great depth and advice. I’m in desperate need of advice. So, here goes. I’m in my late twenties, done a lot of introspection and I’ve finally...
[button link=”mailto:[email protected]” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Hi Cary, This is the second time I write to you. I don’t want to take advantage of you, but your advice has given me such a wise and comforting, yet concrete external point of view through which looking at my problem that helped me a lot, and I really look up to your...
[button link=”mailto:[email protected]” newwindow=”yes”] Write for Advice[/button] Cary’s classic column from Tuesday, Nov 6, 2007 My father was full of rage and insult, and I sat mute through his tirades. Now I’m exploding at people too. Dear Cary, So I grew up in an abusive household. Not the “my dad gets drunk and smashes a lamp over my mother’s head” kind of...